• Domestically-challenged, terminally-tired, craft-obsessed, Aussie Mum to two.
  • Botanist by trade (I’ve even got a shiny piece of paper that says “Doctor of Philosophy in the field of Botany”), but recently began new career as a teacher (another shiny bit of paper that says Graduate Diploma of Education – with Distinction).
  • Previously an Ego-Wrangler and Strategy Articulator for a bunch of academics.
  • Currently working as a supply teacher whilst being a full-time parent.
  • Lover of Australian native plants.
  • Cross-stitcher.
  • Learning the art of photography.
  • Mostly Solar powered (12 shiny big solar panels on our roof).
  • Wife to Mr Fixit.
  • Mother and general dogsbody to Miss K and Mr H.
  • Caretaker of 5 chooks.
  • Cook
  • Lazy Gardener


That’s who I used to be.  I was so happy and lucky and loved and took it all for granted.

Now I am someone different:  I am a widow.

The man I love beyond breath was killed in a car accident whilst carrying out his normal duties at work on March 1, 2010.

Most of me remains (or at least I hope to get back most of me):

I am still a Mum to two beautiful children.  I am still a teacher. I still am a botanist.  I still love Australian native plants and gardens.  I still love to hear music and play the piano.  I still have fantastic friends (both RL and online). My brain still functions on a reasonably good level (short-term memory is a bit wonky though).  I still love Holden cars and meat pies and good people everywhere.  I still love the beach and the bush.  and I still love a good laugh.

And I am someone new:

I find myself showing more kindness as I have been shown kindness.  I find myself seeking out the hearts of others and hearing their story.  and I find myself in a more spiritual place than I was before.


3 thoughts on “About

  1. Bush Babe says:

    Nice looking blog here… just dropping by after following your link from Rhubarb.

  2. JENNY TALIA says:

    You don’t know me, we’ve never met
    I found your site thru Bush Babe
    Bush Babe is also how I found out about your husband
    I don’t even know if it’s appropriate for me to be writing to a stranger who is suffering through such tragedy
    Can I even send my love to someone I don’t know?
    I don’t mean to be inappropriate
    My heart breaks for you and I hope the love you’re surrounded with at this time, helps your heart hurt a little less

  3. Debbie Shoup says:

    In discovering your blog I was so happy to learn that I am not the ony one who writes to her dead husband. I will be one year out on May 13, 2011. I lost my teacher-husband, my best friend and the love of my life (over 24 years) to a car accident one mile up the road from our house. He was on his way home from tutoring after school and was hit head-on by a driver who had lost control on a curve about an hour after a rain storm. He died two weeks before our son was to graduate from high school. I have another son graduating in June and our youngest son is 13. I am functioning yet completely lost without this person who was at the very center of who I am. I still cannot escape the startling clarity of the events surrounding the day of his accident. The memory of that day becomes more and more vivid as the spring deepens and the anniversary of his death approaches.

    I would never choose illness but will forever regret not having the chance to say goodbye. Those of us who suffer sudden death are in a place no one else can possibly understand. I could write a novel about my experience but let me just finish by saying that I appreciate your candidness and love the fact that I am not the only one who uses the “f” word when I write! Sometimes cursing and ranting on paper are the only way I can get relief when the “MISSING YOU” monster comes to call. In my daily writing I have yet to find any word or combination of words that can possibly give voice to the overwhelming devastation and the finality of the loss.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

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