There it was again. A little comment made at the funeral I went to in March. “I can’t imagine the pain you must feel”.
A good comment really – truthful and showing empathy.
But it made me think….. how can I let people know how bad the pain is or how I “must be feeling” so that they really do understand that they don’t understand…..
….and today, I saw this on youtube. A link on a friend’s facebook page. I watched it and howled.
Ignoring the fact that this ad is about drink driving and fast forwarding to the pain and grief part … well yeah …. if you want to know how I feel, paint the face of your spouse or child onto someone in the film and you’ll have a taste of the grief and PTSD.
WARNING: This ad is tough going. Do not watch it if you have PTSD (hello ME – wish I took my own advice 5 minutes ago).
So you now know that you can’t imagine the pain, nor understand it and that is OK – I’d hate for you to really know – but if you ever really wondered how I “must be feeling” … this is as close as I can show you….