update on Dad

Thanks Magic Quilter for asking about my Dad.

I’ve been meaning to write an update but am not really sure where to start.

The good news is that the cancer is very slow growing.  the other good news is that the really bad balance was caused by an ear infection and not the tumour.  The other good news is that the chance of fitting is very slim so Dad can still drive (he’s not a bad driver at all).

The bad news is that an operation probably won’t fix anything and has a 20% chance of causing a stroke … and Dad is a good candidate for a stroke.

The neurosurgeon has said its 50-50 as to whether he’ll operate as there’s every chance that it won’t cause any further effects for another 10 years … which will make dad about 84…. and there’s a fair chance that Dad could end up worse off.

BUT

Nobody will really know until after an MRI which isn’t for another couple of weeks AND a visit with an ENT specialist to see if there’s any other considerations to help make the decision on risk of op Vs risk of leaving tumour alone.

I think Dad is leaning towards not having the surgery and I can’t say I blame him.  Still, he’s waiting to see what the results of the MRI and the ENT guy say before making a final decision.

BUT a big thank you to everyone for your kind thoughts and prayers.  I know I’ve been slack in responding, but I’ve really been avoiding thinking how I feel about it all.  Its the realisation that my parents are starting to get old. My family has good genes for living well into their 90s so its a bit of a shock for me to have to consider that a man of 74 can be considered “old”.

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7 thoughts on “update on Dad

  1. What a decision, I hope that the investigation results make it easier. Best of luck.

    (BTW I’ve just nicked your copyright blurb hope that’s OK – shit I didn’t get express and written permission for that, doh!).

  2. corymbia says:

    Again, I thank you all for your kind words and thoughts. They are very much appreciated.

  3. thanks for letting us know…it is so hard to have to face it and you have been through a lot recently with your dad. He is a little younger than my dad…my husband’s mum was dreadfully ill unexpectedly last year and is now in a nursing home…good news though just got an email my friend over there went to see her and its like a good private hotel!! It is so hard to know what to expect as our parents age..and so good to stay home as long as possible…to keep as independent …and that is great about the fitting …so he can keep driving. Will check in regularly. Email if you need to!

  4. Jayne says:

    (((hugs))) thinking of you and your Dad, no matter how “good” news it is.

  5. Chookie says:

    Good to hear more — I’ve been thinking of you.

    The decisions some of us have to make, aren’t they incredible? Have somebody poke around in your brain or leave a tumour growing in it. Hoping that all the specialists are easy to work with.

  6. M & B says:

    Glad there is some good news for your dad and your family. I hope the MRI and the ENT guy can provide some better direction in making a decision regarding surgery.

  7. as you know babe, I have been through similar with my father. So I am here for you sweetie.

    And as for the MRI, make sure he gets LOTS of nice calming drugs beforehand!

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